Hi Tom, I wrote a very long message and then deleted it accidentally. This article summarizes it:

https://medium.com/illumination/how-to-practice-the-joy-of-missing-out-and-to-say-no-when-it-matters-most-a23826c2104a

I came to the same conclusion as you: stillness is the key. Despite 'Inner Engineering' (maybe that's too spiritual) I recommend 'Think Like A Monk' from Jay Shetty. Great with motorcycling and making music( what kind?). Great with spending more time with your toddler and family. Quality time matters.

Take care & believe in your journey!

Kristina